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Thursday, January 31, 2013

Homeschool: The Parenting Power of Poetry

Once upon a time, poetry memorization was a standard educational tool in schools.  It was well known that memorizing poetry increased vocabulary, spelling, grammer, syntax, expression, fluency and a general appreciation of the beauty of language.  When I was in fourth grade, we memorized Lewis Carroll's The Jabberwocky at school and put on a play.  While I don't remember the poem in it's entirety,  snippets of it's twisted phrases and quirky vocabulary come back to me from time to time and find their way out of my mouth or into my writing. 

To be honest, when I decided to add memorization to our homeschool schedule, I had none of the above benefits in mind, though I am glad to know we're enhancing our Language Arts skills as a byproduct. ;)  At first, I intended for us to memorize scripture verses, The Articles of Faith, and The Living Christ.  But after this, we just naturally moved into poetry as well.  The Book of Virtues includes a number of classic poems which I've read, but forgotten over the years, and plenty more that I'd never heard.  So many of them teach virtues and character traits that I want my children to internalize.  I realize that the best thing I can do for them is to be a living example, but beyond that,  teaching these principles only goes so far with a story or my own repetitve admonitions.

While we were reading morning after morning, I started to realize that I had a parenting partner in the poems we came across; an honest to gosh advocate in my character-building cause.  There's just something about enrobing truth in a clever phrase or a rhymed verse that gives it potential to imprint itself deeply on the mind and ultimately in the heart.  I figured that kind of impression would logically be magnified if the words were committed to memory.  So we began memorizing a few.

We have a chalkboard in our dining room where we write the poems so that they're always visible.  In fact, over Christmas break, Luke was sick on the couch for a couple of days and memorized the one we had up at the time.  I didn't realize it until a couple of weeks ago when he recited the entire poem to me from memory.  He had been in school while the girls and I were memorizing it, so I was completely surprised.  He then explained that while he was sick, his head was at just the right angle so that he could see the chalkboard the entire time.  For him, it was impossible not to memorize it!  Too funny.



The following poem was the first one we memorized.  Short and sweet and powerful.  We'd had some issues with over-the-top goofing off during laundry party, and I also have one child who consistently shirks work and can't finish a job.  I chose this poem with both situations in mind.  Interestingly, that child really took to this poem and had it memorized before anyone else.  I jumped on that, and every time we began family work projects, I started chanting the poem.  That child kept on working every time with a smile, and still does whenever I spout off the words.

Miraculous.


Work While You Work
-McGuffey's Primer
 
Work while you work,
Play while you play,
One thing each time,
That is the way.
 
All that you do
Do with your might.
Things done by halves
Are not done right


Try Try Again is another short, sweet one, though the entire poem isn't as well known as the classic third and fourth line.  Who doesn't need to memorize this one?  It was fun to introduce it to my kids, who had somehow never heard the saying, "If at first you don't succeed..."   We memorized it while Miri was working on her front and side splits and a back walkover for gymnastics.   Every time she started to get down about being able to do it, we recited the poem to her.  I'm happy to report that she quickly achieved all of her tumbling goals. ;)


Try Try Again
by T.H. Palmer
 
Tis a lesson you should heed,
Try try again.
If at first you don't succeed,
Try try again.
 
Then your courage should appear,
For if you will persevere,
You will conquer never fear,
Try, try again.


We've had enough poor sports in our house over the years, that I knew the next one was a must for our agenda.  Sure enough, shortly after memorizing it, the older kids were playing a 3 day Monopoly game and Abby bit the dust in a big way.  She was pouting her way out of the game, nearly in tears, when I began reciting the poem from across the room.  You should've seen the way it stunned her into stoic submission .  And I'm pretty sure I saw a smile begin forming at the corners of her mouth.

Author unknown
 
Let others cheer the winning man,
There's one I hold worthwhile.
'Tis he who does the best he can,
Then loses with a smile.
 
Beaten is he, but not to stay
Down with the rank and file.
That man will win some other day,
Who loses with a smile.
 
 
I love the following poem.  Miri picked it out one day to read and it put a dreamy smile on all of our faces and made us want to flit our way outside and twirl around in the wind and leaves.  So, of course we had to memorize it!  Because sometimes it really is just best to abandon everything and take the rainbow's hand, don't you think?
 
 
I Meant To Do My Work Today
by Richard LeGallienne
I meant to do my work today,
But a brown bird sang in the apple tree,
And a butterfly flitted across the field,
And all the leaves were calling me.
And the wind went sighing over the land,
Tossing the grasses to and fro,
And a rainbow held out its shining hand,
So what could I do but laugh and go?
Next is the poem we're currently working on. I've read it a few times in my life and always come away inspired and convicted to be a better person. I wasn't sure if my kids were old enough to understand it, so I figured we'd get to it sometime down the road. However, both Luke and Abby have chosen to read it during morning devotional in the past month, so I figured it was a sign. We're on the second stanza.

If

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;
If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings---nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And---which is more---you'll be a Man, my son!



 
The following poem is the next one in our queue.  And I'm scheming about a new motivational system at our house to go right along with it... 
 
How To Be Happy
 
 


Are you almost disgusted with life, little man?
I'll tell you a wonderful trick
That will bring you contentment, if anything can,
Do something for somebody, quick!
Are you awfully tired with play, little girl?
Wearied, discouraged, and sick
I'll tell you the loveliest game in the world,
Do something for somebody, quick!
Though it rains, like the rain of the flood, little man,
And the clouds are forbidding and thick,
You can make the sun shine on your soul, little man,
Do something for somebody, quick!
Though the stars are like brass overhead, little girl,
And the walks like a well-heated brick,
And our earthy affairs in a terrible whirl,

Do something for somebody, quick!




Powerful powerful poetry. My new secret weapon. If all goes as planned, these poems will not only help shape their minds for the present, but will be a source of inspiration they can draw from for the rest of their lives.  Wouldn't that be grand?!  Do you think it'll work?

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Homeschool: Morning Devotional / Mom School

I promised I'd write more about homeschool awhile ago.  And while I'm sure no one else cares too much, I have this (sometimes) baffling sense of responsibility to follow through with things I say like that on this blog.  I can't rest until I've checked it off my mental list.  My blogging ability is waning horribly, and I doubt I have more than a handful of readers left, but if this is helpful for even one of you- to see how our schedule plays out in detail, I am truly glad. 

I am not a perfect homeschooling Mom by anyone else's standards.  I'm certain of that.  I'm a little off the beaten path even as far as most homeschoolers go.  I am simply trying to do what I've felt inspired to do for my own children right now.  And it's very much a work in progress.

I wrote about our homeschool scedule in an earlier post, here.  Shockingly, we're still following that basic schedule with the following adjustments:

1. We do not begin at 7:30 am.  That one makes just plain makes me laugh.  All I can say is I'm grateful that no other force requires us to begin that early.  We generally get started somewhere between 8:30 and 9:30, depending on the morning. 

2. We have removed "Skill Binders" from the schedule, and simply work on them here and there as the opportunity arises to teach/perfect a home skill, or when Luke is off track. 

3. Afternoon "Free Time" is now called "Project Time."

Other than these adjustments, everything else on the default schedule remains the same.  We tweak here and there as needed.  I still LOVE the flexibility.  We need the schedule to give structure to our days, but we are not slaves to it by any means.  We roll with all the variables life throws at us, and wherever our learning takes us.

I'm going to break the schedule up into sections and write about each section in detail.  Today's homeschool episode begins with....

Morning Devotional / Mom School

This is my favorite part of the day, by far, and judging by the reaction of the girls every morning when I signal time to get started, I think they quite like it, too.  Morning devotional is really where it's at.  We begin with a song and a prayer.  Following the prayer, I start off with a scripture story and lesson.  I've chosen to study the Bible with them this year.  I picked up a used book at the D.I. in the summer, titled, Illustrated Stories from the Bible, which doubles as a collection of Bible stories as well as a Bible study guide for older children. I really like the commentary it provides, sparking all kinds of discussion about what we read. 

After our scripture lesson/discussion, the older girls each take a turn reading a short story of their choice to highlight virtues, morals and character traits I *hope* to instill in them somehow.  Miriam usually chooses a story or two from The Friend magazine.  Abby usually reads a selection from The Book of Virtues (William J. Bennett), which is a collection of moral folktales from around the world.  And Luke, now that he's off track again, has been reading sections from Seven Miracles that Saved America.  This is what morning devotional generally looks like:




The point is not just to read together (although that has it's own merit), but to talk about what we're reading.  So, I try to let the discussion flow.  Some days it lasts 5 minutes.  Some days 45 minutes.  One day we talked and talked and talked -and listened- for 3 hours straight!!  I kid you not.  They had question after question after question about truth and right, and I gladly indulged them.  This is my favorite part of the day, because I get to teach them what I feel is most important for them right now, and to share with them thoughts and ideas I have that don't often get shared in the busy-ness of life.  For now, academics are taking a back seat to character development.  This is what I have felt strongly impressed to focus on with our homeschool, though it clashes with the prevailing wisdom on childhood education.  I have had the same impression and conviction over and over again, but figuring out how to turn that impression into reality has been, and continues to be an exercise in faith.  I'm taking it a day at a time, knowing that I may never be able to calculate the impact of what we're doing right now on their lives.  I just have to trust. 

After stories, we move into "Mom School."  This is a title I picked up from A Thomas Jefferson Education for a period of time when I get to teach whatever I want to teach them for the day.  One of my hopes is to expose my children to a variety of subjects, peoples, cultures, and ideas that will spark curiosity and a love of learning in general.  Right now, I'm using an online tool called This Week in History as my main resource.  It provides a list of historical and recent events in the arts, math, science, geography and history for each calendar date and includes links to additional resources and activities for each subject, encouraging futher exploration.  We read through the events for the day and I let the kids tell me what they are most interested in (or I just follow their cues,) and we explore together.  For instance, yesterday marked the day that the largest snowflake known to man was recorded in Montana (something like 15 inches wide and 8 inches deep!) There were links to more information on snowflakes that we followed, including a small experiment to determine the volume of water vs. air in snow (pretty timely considering the piles of snow outside right now.)  Yesterday was also Mozart's birthday, so we talked about his life and discussed what it might be like to be a child prodigy.  This led to discussion of talents and gifts and the true definition of "genius."  During project time, I slipped in a Mozart CD for a little background music.  I absolutely love This Week in History. Because the content is so valuable, it's a time saver and a life preserver (for me) in our homeschool.   

Following This Week in History, we work on memorization.  My extended family is memorizing The Living Christ this year, so we work on sections of that regularly (Luke and I memorized it two years ago when he was homeschooling, so we know it's possible!)  Here's a site with some helps for memorizing that Luke and I used.  The ultimate goal is to have the words of this testimony become written in our hearts and minds so that we can recall them throughout our lives.  It's been pleasantly surprising to actually hear Luke and Abby recite random phrases in various situations or discussions from time to time. 

If we're not working on memorizing The Living Christ, we're memorizing poetry.  More on this soon.  For now, I will say this: Poetry is powerful.

Mom School usually ends with direction for the rest of the day, and on Mondays, with meal planning and scheduling for the week.  All told, we usually spend about an hour and a half  together for devotional/mom school, and we usually just call it "Devotional." 

I mentioned this already, but Morning Devotional is where I find the greatest fulfillment in homeschooling so far.  The few times we've skipped it, the day just doesn't feel right.  When my three older children were in school, and life was busy and hectic and chaotic when they were home (usually trying to meet the demands of school !!), this is precisely what I was missing.   I am basking in the freedom I have right now to spend time with my children during hours of the day when we are awake and alert and completely unfettered by outside commitments; peaceful time to just talk and learn and listen and be.  It's so satisfying after knowing the contrast.

Someday, when my girls return to school, I'll have to figure out how to carry on some semblance of what we've started.  I'm sure it's possible.  I know that other people do it successfully.  But something tells me it will require rising long before 7:30 in the morning!

Heaven bless the day I must...

Friday, January 11, 2013

The Nasty Wasty Stomach Bug


Want to stop a stomach virus dead in its tracks?

Try this:







Unbelievable.  But true.

Saturday, January 5, 2013

Christmas Porch Portrait 2012

A friend commented the other day on our running theme of taking the annual family Christmas photo on our front porch.  I had to tell her- and now you, that it's the result of sheer laziness...or exhaustion, or some combination of the two.  More often than not, despite what I may have dreamed up months before, we end up on the porch. 
 
And more often than not, I'm somehow glad we did.
 
 
 
Christmas Porch Portrait 2012 
 
 
 
 
 
Happy New Year!